Wednesday, 22 February 2012

Really it's been a year? No surely not!

Today is the one year anniversary of starting my blog!

Is it what I thought it would be? No and Yes

I initially thought I would have a million and one things to say and have this amazing blog that has thousands of views then obviously would come the book deal, film rights etc etc

But alas and alack its not!

Mainly down to me and my time keeping, the fact I don't really publicise it anywhere might have something to do with it or perhaps down to the fact that my content hasn't been amazing and probably because rather than being this witty, articulate piece of work that I intended its been more about self therapy and getting things out of my head as when I find the time!

But all that being said I love my blog, I love the people that pass by and comment and I love reading other people's blogs! again as and when I find the time!

So all in all I intend to carry on as I am, writing for the joy of expressing myself and hopefully others will find some of what I write interesting too!

So Happy Blogaverssary to me!

Monday, 20 February 2012

Hello I am here honest

Hello, I am still here! just been very busy trying to get a college course that I want and trying to organise childcare and trying to battle doctors and hospitals to find out why my daughter is ill, still no definite diagnosis, still no medication that helps so this was a brief hello as I'm sat in front of the computer and I will hopefully be back with a post soon! mwah! that's a kissing sound by the way not some weird typing mistake!

Sunday, 12 February 2012

My love is your Love

Today brings us the sad news that Whitney Houston has died now I'm not going to harp on about her life or it's tragic downward spiral you'll read enough of that in every paper! For me the loss of anyone so young, someone in so much pain that they can no longer put their child or their life first is devastating and tragic no matter who they are.

All I want to do is share why it personally means something to me and why I will always remember her

My love is your love was our first dance at our wedding so thank you Miss Houston and may you rest in peace.

Whitney Elizabeth Houston 1963-2012

Wednesday, 8 February 2012

Remember as far as anyone knows we are a nice normal family!

You know the way because it your life, your normality that you assume it's perfectly normal to everyone else until something or someone else reminds you it's not, well I thought I'd share with you a few snippets from my week so you can tell me if we're 'normal'(God I hate that word!)or not!

On Sunday we had snow, we don't get snow very often so I feel it is something to enjoy, to share! Apparently teenagers don't feel this way and didn't want to join us in the snow so after building a snowman with the 3 year old I thought if they won't come to the snow I will take the snow to them!

See what a caring, thoughtful mother I am! So the 3 year old and I gathered snowballs and set off into the house first on the hit list was the 19 year old who's response was "No mum! Are you mad? (I took that as rhetorical) and "aargh that's cold!" err yes of course it is it's snow!

The 17 year old laughed she is a lot like me, scarily like me some would say!

Then finally the 15 year old who was in her bedroom, the 3 year old and I managed to get in her room and throw the snowballs before she knew what was happening we were like ninjas! Her response "Why can't I be part of a nice normal family!"

I still think it was a good idea!

My children utter lines like "it's going to snow I can feel it in my armpits" the 17 year old

"I'm exasparated and doomed" the 3 year old! Through much laughter I ask "why honey?" her response "because I'm tired and I have so much to do!" She's 3!

"Mum I need to sing AT you" is a common one from the 15 year old she's a budding singer and puts her videos on you tube so perhaps not that odd but why never 'to me'

"Can you measure my face" the 19 year old

For some reason I have pictures of my nephew and a good friend balancing spoons on their noses and more bizarrely their ears on 2 separate and random occasions! Do I bring this out in people?

I once hid all the clean crockery and cutlery in an attempt to get the teenagers to wash up when I went out for the day! Normal right?

And just now as I type this the 3 year is looking through my wedding album complaining that she's not in the wedding photos even after all my explaining that she wan't born, she's not happy and has asked for the camera so she can make wedding photos of her own!

And now as I type this the 17 year old is running round shouting "I'm a duck!" whilst being chased by the 3 year old!

Someone save me now!

So in conclusion are we a nice normal family?

What's your family like? I need something to compare to or will that just make me cry!

Friday, 3 February 2012

Who's a Fat Cat then! Warning no actual cats are included in this blogpost!

Now I'm not usually a political creature(I'm picturing a demon type creature, slyly smiling while it utters the lines "we're all in this together!" Brain stop it!) but if I hear one more politician blame the unemployed, the benefit fraudsters etc etc for the financial state of this country I swear I will reach in the TV/radio and grab him or her by their *insert word of your choice here* and shove it up their *insert word of your choice here* I'm a little perturbed by this, can you tell?

Don't get me wrong I know that the benefits bill for this country is in excess of £4 billion and I know that there are benefit cheats but let me put something in perspective for you, the cost to this country in tax evasion/avoidance by those that have money, have jobs is £69.9 billion a year!

Really has the divide between the haves and the have nots ever been greater?

Now I'm not naive enough to think that there aren't those who work the system but there are also those that are full time carers of disabled children, single parents who found themselves single through no choice of their own and choose to raise their children themselves rather than pay someone else to do it, there are those that have been made redundant later in life and now find it difficult to find employment and the longer you are unemployed the harder it is to find a job and the list goes on and on but all benefit claimants seem to be tarred with same brush, and I'm not advocating life on benefits or making excuses for those who are I just think its time the government looked at where the real financial issues are, it's very easy to blame those that are at the bottom end of the chain and it's seems a lot harder for them to look sideways or upwards if you know what I mean?

Then and I'm no economist but if you're taking money away from those with very little and there aren't the jobs out there, then people are going to spend less therefore putting less into the economy!

I mean let's face it, it's not the rich that are affected so their spending will never change its those who have to count the pounds to make ends meet that spend less and effect the economy.

Little Rant over and out of my system!

Let me know what you think

Thursday, 2 February 2012


I was reading an article the other day which was something along the lines of 'what did you take for granted before you had children?' now my initial response was "I've been a parent so long I can't remember!" then it was "sleep!" but the more I think about it the more I realise that the real answer is TIME! The thing is when you're a parent, particularly if you are the main carer even the time that you're not with your children you're probably doing something for your children or you're thinking/worrying about your children!

Let's face it unless you're one of those rich lucky parents that has a nanny, a mothers help, a cleaner you're probably on the go all day, if you're a working parent all day you're busy at work probably still thinking about your kids, probably planning your time so you can get some time with them as well as getting the house work done, cooking a meal and all the other mundane things that have to be done.

If you're a stay at home parent chances are you have a small child then that's even more of your time yesterday alone I had to be a pirate digging for treasure, a patient in a hospital, someone sleeping so the tooth fairy could visit, oh and a bluebird! Plus all the other things outlined above!

So me time is a thing of the past because let's face it seriously even when you are having this supposed "ME TIME" how much of that time do your thoughts go back to the kids or thinking I must make that dentist appointment, therefore totally taking away from your "ME TIME"!

My only "ME TIME" is sleeping! Oh wait didn't we cover that in the first paragraph!

Do you agree? Or do you actually manage some elusive time for yourself?